I love the boundaries for people pleasers section. I’ve seen this come up a lot with high achievers, where people pleasing is a secondary motivation but the primary one is their desire to accomplish tasks/be helpful. So they end up being the go to for peers/colleagues that need help executing. I advise them to use similar phrasing to what you included here with the addition of “if you can’t figure it out, check back in next quarter when I have a bit more bandwidth”. Most people figure it out and don’t need the assistance next Q :) That result (the work getting done) ends up making them feel less bad about implementing a boundary in the future.
Always a pleasure, thank you!
Great edition! So much food for thought.
I love the boundaries for people pleasers section. I’ve seen this come up a lot with high achievers, where people pleasing is a secondary motivation but the primary one is their desire to accomplish tasks/be helpful. So they end up being the go to for peers/colleagues that need help executing. I advise them to use similar phrasing to what you included here with the addition of “if you can’t figure it out, check back in next quarter when I have a bit more bandwidth”. Most people figure it out and don’t need the assistance next Q :) That result (the work getting done) ends up making them feel less bad about implementing a boundary in the future.