On Intimacy & Independence

On Intimacy & Independence


There seems to be a tension between intimacy and independence. When lovers are expected to fuse together so closely and completely, mutuality mutates into a paralyzing codependence which stunts growth. In the most nourishing kind of love, the communion of togetherness coexists with an integrity of individuality, the two aspects always in dynamic and fluid dialogue. Philosopher and Poet Kahlil Gibran gives his secret to a loving and lasting relationship, “Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.” Explore more at brainpickings (4 minutes).